tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post3096228310982529733..comments2024-03-20T04:13:16.115-03:00Comments on About the Small Stuff: BlahCaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09106769763459813759noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-40281444785155116502022-12-10T01:17:19.838-04:002022-12-10T01:17:19.838-04:00This is a great post, thanks for sharing itThis is a great post, thanks for sharing itHome Renovation Oceansidehttps://www.home-renos.com/us/renovation-contractors-california/home-renovation-oceanside.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-88178726277178290142010-08-26T17:05:09.736-03:002010-08-26T17:05:09.736-03:00Hi Cary,
Ah yes, social gatherings. Bring your g...Hi Cary,<br /><br />Ah yes, social gatherings. Bring your gear and get your game face on! I'm with Katy on this one...sometimes it's just not a good day to play. Other times it's great to get out there with your kids, help them smile and play, even though the other adults are hanging out with their beers watching their little ones play chase on their own (and they simply don't get it). <br /><br />Here's the great part. If you do manage to get out to a few of these things and make some good friends, they start to get you--start to understand the differences (and the similarities! There are some!) in your lives. <br /><br />Hey--I wish we didn't have to lug all our equipment all over tarnation, or help my child stand up, or be rightthere to catch our kids when they fall (etc)--but you do get much better at it. :)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00105042832608271631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-9060452643106112462010-08-10T02:14:46.384-03:002010-08-10T02:14:46.384-03:00Hi Cary,
I agree with the others. Don't be so ...Hi Cary,<br />I agree with the others. Don't be so hard on yourself! I probably would have done the same thing. It's supposed to be a fun event for the whole family, and if one or more of you is not enjoying it for whatever reason, you have every right to leave without guilt. <br /><br />I also think that, Ben's CP aside, the age differences in the kids, is a valid factor for not sticking around. With my 20 month olds, I have to scout the play areas we plan on going to, in case there are more bigger, hyper kids going wild. If so, we skip it. Am I being too cautious? Maybe....but I also know if they''re going to be overwhelmed and unhappy then what's the point?Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18272696609573823964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-57310172158019586932010-08-09T23:55:24.968-03:002010-08-09T23:55:24.968-03:00I give myself a 50/50 policy--half the time I try ...I give myself a 50/50 policy--half the time I try and half the time I don't. No point and making my whole life an uphill battle. And I don't think we're doing our kids a disservice by bailing sometimes. I've been to many parties where the bouncy thing was little kids and then for big kids--not all the kids at once.Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189007616883663434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-46338039031017162192010-08-09T13:26:42.295-03:002010-08-09T13:26:42.295-03:00Cary,
Tomorrow is another day with another event. ...Cary,<br />Tomorrow is another day with another event. I felt the same way when Hailey would come with us for a bigfamily bbq, everyone would be so eager to see Hailey and she would scream bloody murder she even did that at her first birthday party when everyone was singing Happy Birthday. I don't think this is the case with you and your boys but what we found helpful is to ask everyone to not immediately run up and get right in her face, saying hi Hailey, Hi pretty girl, she absolutely hated this and did much better over time if they just kept their distance and let her get acclamated to her surroundings on her terms. Now she does much better at family outings and she enjoys events like the one that you went to. We once went to a carnival and there was one of those bouncy things and hailey wanted to go on it in the worst way. I was terrified that she would get trampled on. I simply went up to the person in charge of letting the kids on, explained Haileys situation and she let Hailey go on ahead of everyone else for a few minutes and then we kept her way up front while the other kids trampled along in the back. she had a blast and they new to try and be careful of her. Daniel is going to be fine doing things with and without Ben in life. He isn't going to miss out on much. He has a great mom and a great family support system, don't you worry about a thing.Janet "Grammy" Harroldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13422231862890242444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-60924906360427555742010-08-09T10:40:01.545-03:002010-08-09T10:40:01.545-03:00Oh I'm sorry you had such a hard time there :(...Oh I'm sorry you had such a hard time there :( Don't feel bad you aren't exposing Daniel to more stuff, you are bringing them to things that you feel are appropriate for both of them. Although this may not have been a success, I can almost guarantee that at some point you will end up somewhere with them and you will be surprised at how GOOD it turned out when you were expecting the opposite. So keep your chin up momma, you're doing your best :)Tracey Trousdellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16525014711873941460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-3226340945744734492010-08-08T20:39:44.846-03:002010-08-08T20:39:44.846-03:00Oh, I'm so sorry you had a rough day. That re...Oh, I'm so sorry you had a rough day. That really stinks that they weren't more accommodating. If kids of all ages were invited they should have had more available for younger ones, like maybe a bouncer just for little ones so that the big kids weren't all over them. Ugh, I really hate that you had to deal with that today. It's so hard to get so excited about something and then just get let down.dlonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14370961567054479987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3527208639978294426.post-66557876136041527912010-08-08T19:38:56.574-03:002010-08-08T19:38:56.574-03:00I understand your feelings here. My daughter has ...I understand your feelings here. My daughter has a problem being around people. We always talk about the event, she gets excited to go, but then we have to leave because she gets overwhelmed. She will drop to the floor and cover her ears and hide her face. Sometimes all she will do is cry and we have to leave.<br /><br />This is especially hard when we are at family gatherings. They will sometimes get upset because we turn down a lot of things, but it is just easier to stay home sometimes. Then I feel guilty for making them upset and for my husband and son to have to miss the event.<br /><br />It is really hard! I hope I didn't bring you down even more. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that I understand!The Henryshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878410407082384985noreply@blogger.com