Wednesday, September 9, 2009


So much of this blog has been about the boys. And that's fine...mostly. But before the boys, there was US. Just Clarence and Cary. No Daniel and no Benjamin. Of course, we couldn't imagine our lives without them now. But sometimes we try it out for a few days. Like when we went to Bermuda in June. And like we will next week when we get away yet again on our own.

I would say that Clarence and I have a fairly strong marriage. We've been together for 6 years and married for 3. We do have some things that we need to work on though. Hopefully the next week will help with that. I don't expect that it will fix everything though and I do plan to get us into some couple's counselling sometime soon. Now don't be alarmed. That doesn't mean that we're not doing well. It just means that we're not doing as well as I'd like.

You see...I was married once before. For 8 very long and mostly unhappy years. I get what happens when you don't fix the problems when they're small and you still actually love the person you're with. When the problems get big and you no longer love that person...well, that's just a bit too late.

So to celebrate our little mini-vacation next week, here's a photo of us on our very first holiday together back in 2004. This is US on Edinburgh's Royal Mile.


  1. I had two friends get divorced and hubby and I ran off and put ourselves in marriage class at our church. Just made us feel better. I didn't like the class, but hubby did. Whatever--I think working on your marriage is always a good thing.

  2. Good for you for focusing on what's important.